No one seems to think that the hardest learning in the world is the science of being a father and a mother. Future parents have to know too much, and this does not include only making something with their hands, but also creating something with their soul. Not every adult knows how to keep peace in his or her family, how to listen and hear other people, how to concede, and - which is more - to love. Children feel falsity in relations, in words and in souls like no one else. That is why we should learn how to be parents from our childhood - this is the best age to get such good traits as the ability to be strict with oneself, to strengthen one's nature, one's «ego». Strictness to oneself, freedom from one's «I want» is necessary to gain the love to one's neighbour. Without the ability to be strict to one's «ego», which opens the possibilty to hear one's conscience, there can be no open and kind family relations. And only through the obidience to one's parents a person will be able to gain this important and significant habit. The second important thing is the ability to consider advice. Refusing a neighbour's advice means mistrusting him. There can be no relations without trust: neither between a husband and a wife, nor between children and parents. Doubt, stubbornness, self-assuarance - these are the malignant tumors, which complicate the development of trust and love in a family. Those who do not consider advice, have problems in their relations which lead to quarrels and discord. Hovewer, we should bear in mind that if a piece of advice is given without love, it will be more like an order. Only those who love, are able to give advice to his or her neighbour for a good cause. The ability to submit, to endure, to keep peace is the important factor in family relations. Only love, kindness, pacification will help understand one's own fault, not one's neighbour's fault. Irritation, indignation and anger help start quarrels and blame others. A person always has a choice (hereto he is created by God to be free!), that is why everyone can choose: accepting other person's opinion and rejecting a dispute, or giving his or her nature the possibility to be malicious. If a quarrel still starts - only you, who accepts and realizes his or her fault, is able to stop it. Implementing our neighbours' everyday needs from the childhood and subduing our whims, we learn to love each other. And we all know that love and trust are the two important things, which make us real fathers and mothers.
